I care way too much what people think of me. Even people I don't know, have never met. It's almost like a self-centred thing; I could swear that people look at me and instantly are thinking of everything that is wrong with me. When really, they might glance over me and move on with their day.
But this is not a deep, thoughtful post about worrying about people. Nope, this is to share what a trip to the potty looks like in our household. Because of course you all want to know that. (Don't worry it's not MY trip to the potty!)
The reason I mentioned how I care about people's opinions is because Leigh is still potty training and she is going to be four in two months. I believe that she should have grasped the mechanics of peeing and pooping in the toilet by now. And I believe that people will think the same thing. I know, not to compare children, but Abby was trained by 2 1/2. And before we moved, I thought that I saw the light at the end of the potty-training tunnel. But since we moved she has seemingly regressed to a small toddler.
The thing is, I know she knows everything to be done. I think that she even knows when she has to go. She just doesn't. She can be in the bathroom and if I'm not there to help her, she will pee on the floor in front of the dryer, rather than hop on the toilet two feet away. Okay, that's not totally fair. She did go by herself once this morning. It is improving. See, it helps me to write it out and see the progress.
So usually my dear Leigh does the dance. Crossing her legs, squirming, and eventually dropping to the ground because she has so much trouble holding it. Even with all this, if I ask her if she has to go, she usually says no. I hustle her to the bathroom and even though she is capable of doing it all herself, I have to bring the stool over and help her take her pants off.
She does her business, after which she always asks, "Now I get a candy?" Which I assure her that she does. And then I remind her to flush because she would just run out of the room if she could. After I ask her to flush she will always (and I mean always!) say "Don't leave!" About 4 months ago I left the washroom once before she was done. Apparently it left her with separation issues.
Then we go to the kitchen and get the current potty candy available. Right now it is Swedish Berries for pee and a Chupa-Chup (is that how it's spelled? I'm too lazy to go check) for a poop. And of course Abby gets a candy just for being the sister of the trainee.
So that is the potty training ritual here. Probably more than anyone ever wants to know, but hey, at least I didn't describe all the poop I've had to clean up. Seriously, I have some stories.
Let me know if you have any tips or tricks that will get your child to use the toilet. I could use all the help I can get.
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Monday, April 15, 2013
Saturday, March 16, 2013
Let Me Tell You Where My Children's Tongues Have Been
The husband has flown the coop. Mark is in Edmonton right now with his family. They went to a hockey game last night and he is spending the day there today and will be back home tomorrow. If I'm honest I could sit here and right a post ranting about how left out and lonely I feel, but it's really not so bad. And I hate being a downer, so no rant today!
Instead I will ramble on about nonsense so I can avoid the productive tasks that I should be doing, like cleaning out our pets' cages and cleaning out the deep freezer so that my fridge freezer doesn't pop open at the least provocation.
Or I could even unpack more boxes in the hopes that my printer power cord will be found because as of this minute, it is still missing. I never realized before I lost it how important it is to my life. I'm starting to feel a little panicky about it. Because, I mean, it's been three weeks I think since we've been here and it still hasn't surfaced. That can't be a good sign.
Yesterday was a beautiful day. In the sun it was just plain hot! I love spring. It's such a happy feeling when things warm up. Yes, it is supposed to snow again (so I've heard) but I console myself with the fact that the snow usually melts by afternoon. And my kids love to eat snow, so that makes them happy.
Actually, let me tell you about my snow-eating kids. They love snow so much that they will eat it from anywhere: the ground, from the bottoms of their boots, from cars. They eat clean snow and muddy snow, they don't discriminate. I cannot get them to stop licking cars that have snow on them. Or even cars that are just wet. Lick, lick, lick.
Maybe I should ask my Mom-in-law if Mark had a penchant for licking cars when he was younger because I sure don't remember doing that.
Instead I will ramble on about nonsense so I can avoid the productive tasks that I should be doing, like cleaning out our pets' cages and cleaning out the deep freezer so that my fridge freezer doesn't pop open at the least provocation.
Or I could even unpack more boxes in the hopes that my printer power cord will be found because as of this minute, it is still missing. I never realized before I lost it how important it is to my life. I'm starting to feel a little panicky about it. Because, I mean, it's been three weeks I think since we've been here and it still hasn't surfaced. That can't be a good sign.
Yesterday was a beautiful day. In the sun it was just plain hot! I love spring. It's such a happy feeling when things warm up. Yes, it is supposed to snow again (so I've heard) but I console myself with the fact that the snow usually melts by afternoon. And my kids love to eat snow, so that makes them happy.
Actually, let me tell you about my snow-eating kids. They love snow so much that they will eat it from anywhere: the ground, from the bottoms of their boots, from cars. They eat clean snow and muddy snow, they don't discriminate. I cannot get them to stop licking cars that have snow on them. Or even cars that are just wet. Lick, lick, lick.
Maybe I should ask my Mom-in-law if Mark had a penchant for licking cars when he was younger because I sure don't remember doing that.
Tuesday, March 12, 2013
A Raw Moment
Bad days happen.
Bad-mom moments happen.
I must accept this.
I am not perfect.
Most of the time I am not even half-perfect.
Mostly, I am just a very, very, very flawed person.
So when I get incredibly frustrated with my children for seemingly being deaf to my voice while they are sitting not even 2 feet away, and possibly react in a way that is not in the best interests of anybody in the house, I will breath, apologize, hug them, maybe cry, and realize that I am the perfect candidate for a Saviour and thank God that He has given me one.
Bad-mom moments happen.
I must accept this.
I am not perfect.
Most of the time I am not even half-perfect.
Mostly, I am just a very, very, very flawed person.
So when I get incredibly frustrated with my children for seemingly being deaf to my voice while they are sitting not even 2 feet away, and possibly react in a way that is not in the best interests of anybody in the house, I will breath, apologize, hug them, maybe cry, and realize that I am the perfect candidate for a Saviour and thank God that He has given me one.
Monday, January 21, 2013
School Time and Moving
So we had our first week back at school last week. We took a 3 week Christmas vacation, mostly because we spent 2 weeks up north, so I wanted the week at home to let the girls get adjusted back to being home and also so I could do some more decluttering.
And it definitely helped, I have around 10 boxes and a garbage bag waiting to be trucked away to the second hand store in town. And that isn't even including the toys I have planned on getting rid of. It's spring cleaning in January.
Actually, it's more like pre-moving cleaning out. Because we are moving. Again. We haven't even been in this house 6 months. But I'm not complaining. I complain in jest, and I mock ourselves for moving again so fast, but it is definitely a good thing for us. One of the biggest factors, the rent will be cheaper. $300 cheaper. That is a significant amount of money for us. The house is older, same as the one we are currently in, but it is in better condition. We are also good friends with the owners there. And it's on 7 acres. That is sweet!! A down side would be that the house is smaller, but it is a better layout, and the bathroom is bigger. Tit for tat.
Anyways, I was planning on talking about our school week. The first day back went really well. Abby was very willing to sit down and do all our work. She was almost excited to use our schedule and get going. But then Tuesday came, and that one wasn't as good. Hahaha. Second day blues? Wednesday went well, and Friday was alright. Neither easy or hard. Just ordinary. The book we were reading last week for Come Sit By Me was The White Stone in the Castle Wall by Sheldon Oberman. And one of the activities was making a castle. That was loads of fun.
Sometimes it's hard for me not to be perfectionist about projects like this. Like, no, don't paint it that!! Paint it like this! But I just learn to relax and let them do it however they want to, since it's not for me.
And it definitely helped, I have around 10 boxes and a garbage bag waiting to be trucked away to the second hand store in town. And that isn't even including the toys I have planned on getting rid of. It's spring cleaning in January.
Actually, it's more like pre-moving cleaning out. Because we are moving. Again. We haven't even been in this house 6 months. But I'm not complaining. I complain in jest, and I mock ourselves for moving again so fast, but it is definitely a good thing for us. One of the biggest factors, the rent will be cheaper. $300 cheaper. That is a significant amount of money for us. The house is older, same as the one we are currently in, but it is in better condition. We are also good friends with the owners there. And it's on 7 acres. That is sweet!! A down side would be that the house is smaller, but it is a better layout, and the bathroom is bigger. Tit for tat.
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Anyways, I was planning on talking about our school week. The first day back went really well. Abby was very willing to sit down and do all our work. She was almost excited to use our schedule and get going. But then Tuesday came, and that one wasn't as good. Hahaha. Second day blues? Wednesday went well, and Friday was alright. Neither easy or hard. Just ordinary. The book we were reading last week for Come Sit By Me was The White Stone in the Castle Wall by Sheldon Oberman. And one of the activities was making a castle. That was loads of fun.
Sometimes it's hard for me not to be perfectionist about projects like this. Like, no, don't paint it that!! Paint it like this! But I just learn to relax and let them do it however they want to, since it's not for me.
Friday, December 7, 2012
Decisions I've had to Make Since Becoming a Mother
- Cloth vs. Disposable - well, I put this here since it is a tough decision for some folks, but let's be honest: for me, it wasn't a decision at all. I have never felt the urge to use cloth. I give a big thumbs up to those who do, but that's about all I do for it.
- Formula vs. Breastfeeding - I am very pro-breastfeeding but with Abby she had formula as well, so I don't really care what others do. I like the breast because it is free! Well, yes it is time, and time is money, but if you had to give them a bottle it is still time so it is money on top of money. I'm thankful that I've been able to breastfeed my girls.
- Diaper bag vs diaper bag - There are so many out there! I had my first diaper bag given as a gift, so there was no decision there, but then when Leigh was born, my first one was falling apart so I bought another one. Which I promptly lost, maybe a few months into it's use. I haven't boughten another one since. Oh wait, I did buy a cheap $1 one at the secondhand store, but I think that I got rid of it because 1) I don't need it yet and 2) I don't LOVE it and I have decided that I want to LOVE my next diaper bag since I use it all the time.
- Colour coordinated vs sloppy rainbow - For the first 1-3 (ish) years of their lives, I got to dress my children. I see pictures of cute children wearing cute, nicely coordinated clothing, and go, "Meh." I am not a big fashion-type person. My kids usually ended up wearing whatever came closest to hand and was cleanest. Now I just let them pick whatever they want to wear and half the time we look a bit like hobos. (Ok, well dressed hobos.)
- Independent 3 year old vs emotionally sensitive 5 year old - This is today's dilemma. We made some mailboxes in school the other day and Abby loves, or maybe is obsessed with is the better term, sending and receiving mail. But she figures that we all need to sit down at the same time and make cards for each other. We can't wait for them to be deposited in our mailboxes randomly throughout the day. But Leigh plays by her own rules and just wants to make a card for herself to put in her own mailbox. This breaks Abby's heart. It's like a preschool/kindergarten soap opera.
- Clothing vs skin - Not so much a battle anymore, but they both went through phases where they didn't want to wear clothes. We would start the day nicely dressed and end it buck naked. I finally just gave up figuring that we were home all day anyways, why not let them run free. Thankfully they reamain clothed most of the time now, though Abby did tell me the other night that she wanted to "sleep in her skin."
These are just a few of the many decisions a mother has to make. It's a tough life. Now I've got to go make some cards to mail to some hopefully-clothed children.
Tuesday, November 13, 2012
Motherhood Award, Maybe Not Here
Last night my kids didn't make it to bed until 8:30. Well, maybe that's when we walked up the stairs so it really was later than that. Oops. I should maybe get a bad mama point for that. If I was into keeping track of that kind of thing, which I'm not. Really. I may sometimes think that I'm not the greatest mother to ever live, but if I'm really honest, I know that I do alright. Definitely not all the time, but sometimes. I could do a lot worse.
Like today wasn't the greatest of days. I got up sort of early (before 7) and even showered (Hallelujah!) but then my early alone time was not-so-alone time because Leigh was up when I came out. So that's ok. She ate some cereal, and sat with me some. I ate my breakfast and then sat in my chair, and read a little of the Word. But then I sort of dozed in the chair a little. And I have determined that that doze is what killed my day. I should have forced myself out of the chair and gotten my blood flowing and my day started. But instead it sort of made me feel a little lazy and off.
So my day was therefore lazy and off as well. Abby slept in until 9:15 which is another point that I'm tossed on, whether I should have woken her up or not. Since we homeschool, I let her sleep. I had some arguments in my head going, saying that we need to maintain a routine and keep with it and yada yada yada. But my girls rarely sleep in anymore (they used to sleep in all the time) so I figured that letting her have the one day wouldn't kill either of us. Besides, we didn't take yesterday off school, and all the public school kids did. :-)
So today the kids just played and watched tv and played and did whatever else we felt like. A bit of a lazy day. Which is fine, I know. I don't have to be go go go all the time. But the only reason I feel guilty is that I know I could have done even a little bit better. I could have done more, like maybe the laundry, especially since I don't want to get caught with 4 large loads of laundry and a broken washer like I had this last Saturday. That wasn't fun.
Oh well, today is over and I am really trying to learn to just accept the fact that maybe I didn't do something perfect, maybe I was even a little wrong, but it is done now and I can only try again tomorrow.
I started writing this to contemplate whether I should go make my children be quiet and get back in bed since they are currently playing upstairs. This has been a parenting question for me ever since Abby started sleeping in a big girl bed and was able to get out on her own. What are everyone's thoughts on this? Typically I just let them play, as long as it isn't for hours and hours and hours. Ideally I think that I would like them not to, but well, I'm kind of lazyish so I tend to take the path that involves less conflict. Tell me your thoughts.
Like today wasn't the greatest of days. I got up sort of early (before 7) and even showered (Hallelujah!) but then my early alone time was not-so-alone time because Leigh was up when I came out. So that's ok. She ate some cereal, and sat with me some. I ate my breakfast and then sat in my chair, and read a little of the Word. But then I sort of dozed in the chair a little. And I have determined that that doze is what killed my day. I should have forced myself out of the chair and gotten my blood flowing and my day started. But instead it sort of made me feel a little lazy and off.
So my day was therefore lazy and off as well. Abby slept in until 9:15 which is another point that I'm tossed on, whether I should have woken her up or not. Since we homeschool, I let her sleep. I had some arguments in my head going, saying that we need to maintain a routine and keep with it and yada yada yada. But my girls rarely sleep in anymore (they used to sleep in all the time) so I figured that letting her have the one day wouldn't kill either of us. Besides, we didn't take yesterday off school, and all the public school kids did. :-)
So today the kids just played and watched tv and played and did whatever else we felt like. A bit of a lazy day. Which is fine, I know. I don't have to be go go go all the time. But the only reason I feel guilty is that I know I could have done even a little bit better. I could have done more, like maybe the laundry, especially since I don't want to get caught with 4 large loads of laundry and a broken washer like I had this last Saturday. That wasn't fun.
Oh well, today is over and I am really trying to learn to just accept the fact that maybe I didn't do something perfect, maybe I was even a little wrong, but it is done now and I can only try again tomorrow.
I started writing this to contemplate whether I should go make my children be quiet and get back in bed since they are currently playing upstairs. This has been a parenting question for me ever since Abby started sleeping in a big girl bed and was able to get out on her own. What are everyone's thoughts on this? Typically I just let them play, as long as it isn't for hours and hours and hours. Ideally I think that I would like them not to, but well, I'm kind of lazyish so I tend to take the path that involves less conflict. Tell me your thoughts.
Tuesday, September 25, 2012
School in September
I just put Leigh down for a time-out/nap and she is crying at the top of the stairs. I am too lazy to go put her back in her bedroom. I probably should though. She is being sooooo incredibly cranky today. I'm wondering if I am letting her play too many "video games." Lately while I do school work with Abby, I let Leigh play on my iPhone. Ideally I don't want to do this every day, but I feel like it's just so much easier.
I'm hoping that once the house gets more organized, I'll have more stuff for her to do. I have lots of ideas, just none really implemented. And maybe I should be taking more time with her. Even while she was playing games on the phone today she wanted to stay cuddled with me. I think that I don't take more time because I'm selfish and just want to get through the "work" as soon as possible, so that I can sit on the computer wasting my time and mind away.
Last week was a really difficult school week. Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, oh my, it was just rough. Leigh was fussy and Abby wanted nothing to do with school. I was stressed out. I have ladies' Biblestudy on Thursdays, and I asked for prayer for help with school. We didn't do any school on Friday because, well because I just didn't want to. But we did some on Saturday, and it was seriously way better. And so far this week it has gone much better as well. I am so very excited.
I think that it's not that Abby is any different, well, maybe a little, but I have just more patience. An that makes a huge difference.
I'm hoping that once the house gets more organized, I'll have more stuff for her to do. I have lots of ideas, just none really implemented. And maybe I should be taking more time with her. Even while she was playing games on the phone today she wanted to stay cuddled with me. I think that I don't take more time because I'm selfish and just want to get through the "work" as soon as possible, so that I can sit on the computer wasting my time and mind away.
Last week was a really difficult school week. Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, oh my, it was just rough. Leigh was fussy and Abby wanted nothing to do with school. I was stressed out. I have ladies' Biblestudy on Thursdays, and I asked for prayer for help with school. We didn't do any school on Friday because, well because I just didn't want to. But we did some on Saturday, and it was seriously way better. And so far this week it has gone much better as well. I am so very excited.
I think that it's not that Abby is any different, well, maybe a little, but I have just more patience. An that makes a huge difference.
Tuesday, August 7, 2012
Summer So Far, In Point Form
- Camping - We've gone out twice and it's been great. We're hoping to go again later this month, but this time during the week. I'm really looking forward to it. Even though camping is still a lot of work for me, when I'm there it's like I can relax. I don't have an ongoing list in my head of the million things I should be doing.
- VBS - Abby is starting her third VBS this week. We actually haven't completed a whole week of VBS yet though. The first two she seemed to really like, but today I was told that she was fine at first but then she didn't want to be there and she hid under a pew for a long time. One of the leaders basically hung out with her. The big difference for this one is that her best friend isn't there, so I think she feels alone and left out and shy and all that stuff. I'm hoping that she will still go the rest of the days though, we'll see.
- Waterpark - We're a block from the park, so I try to take the girls there at least once a week. It's a nice way to keep cool. I enjoy it because I can just relax on a blanket while they run around. Well, as much relaxing as you can do while a soaking wet child wants to sit on your lap and eat grapes.
- Canoeing - We had a canoe given to us, and I bless the couple that gave it to us everytime we go out. It is the perfect way to spend time together on the weekends. We went out on Sunday and the girls and Daddy even jumped into the lake from the canoe. Fun times.
- Moving - We're moving! Not until the end of August, but I included it in the list because now my life is filled with packing. And I'm excited. There is no basement suite in the house we're moving to. It will just be us. Yay!
Wednesday, July 4, 2012
A Glimpse In the Mind of a Three-Year-Old
What is it with 3-year-olds? I actually try to avoid saying this because it seems that you could say it for every age. (What is it with 30-year-olds?) But seriously, it can be so frustrating. And funny. Funstrating. That just sounds weird.
Being a parent seems to require more patience than I have in me. I guess that's why I have God, right? Leigh is only freshly turned three, but it takes a bit of almost manipulating to get her to do what you want. Here is a typical conversation.
Mama: Here's your stickers, Leigh. Go play with them at the table.
Leigh: No table! I want big table.
Mama: Ok, go to the big table.
Leigh: No big table! Little table!
Mama: Ok, sit at the little table.
Leigh: Yes! (said almost rebelliously, as if she thinks that she is getting one up on me.)
It seems like every decision of hers has to first start with a negative answer, and then she switches to the yes. Must be some form of control, making it her idea instead of mine. But I'm not a psychiatrist, I'm not going to analyze too much.
Being a parent seems to require more patience than I have in me. I guess that's why I have God, right? Leigh is only freshly turned three, but it takes a bit of almost manipulating to get her to do what you want. Here is a typical conversation.
Mama: Here's your stickers, Leigh. Go play with them at the table.
Leigh: No table! I want big table.
Mama: Ok, go to the big table.
Leigh: No big table! Little table!
Mama: Ok, sit at the little table.
Leigh: Yes! (said almost rebelliously, as if she thinks that she is getting one up on me.)
It seems like every decision of hers has to first start with a negative answer, and then she switches to the yes. Must be some form of control, making it her idea instead of mine. But I'm not a psychiatrist, I'm not going to analyze too much.
Wednesday, June 6, 2012
This is Mostly a Catch-Up Post
Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaand I'm still here. It has been a crazy month. Or even if it wasn't super crazy, just abnormal. I feel like I haven't really been home for so long, though really we were home most of May. But we were sick for a good two weeks, so that kind of cuts into it I think.
We're better now, or mostly. Leigh was finally over her cough, but it came back last weekend, so I'm taking her in to the doctor's tomorrow. But the rest of us are fine.
My grandpa died last week, so we went down to the Island for his funeral. That was hard for me, not hte going there, but just his death, because he is the first of my grandparents to die. And even though it was a long drive for a short visit, I was still very glad that we were able to go. Everyone thanked me for coming, but the truth was that it was just as much a selfish thing for me to go. I needed to be around my family at a time like this. All of my cousins except for one were able to make it, so we got to visit with people we really haven't seen in almost ten years.
An up side to that is that Mark was able to come, so he got to meet my family and see where I used to spend my summers. We got to see my Great-Grandma, who turned 99 this year. I was glad that she was able to meet him.
So now it is back to life, at least for a few months! If this rain would stop, maybe the girls and I could do some gardening.
We're better now, or mostly. Leigh was finally over her cough, but it came back last weekend, so I'm taking her in to the doctor's tomorrow. But the rest of us are fine.
My grandpa died last week, so we went down to the Island for his funeral. That was hard for me, not hte going there, but just his death, because he is the first of my grandparents to die. And even though it was a long drive for a short visit, I was still very glad that we were able to go. Everyone thanked me for coming, but the truth was that it was just as much a selfish thing for me to go. I needed to be around my family at a time like this. All of my cousins except for one were able to make it, so we got to visit with people we really haven't seen in almost ten years.
An up side to that is that Mark was able to come, so he got to meet my family and see where I used to spend my summers. We got to see my Great-Grandma, who turned 99 this year. I was glad that she was able to meet him.
So now it is back to life, at least for a few months! If this rain would stop, maybe the girls and I could do some gardening.
Monday, May 14, 2012
Just To Let You Know
I hate being sick. I hate my kids being sick. I hate my husband being sick. Thankfully, he isn't sick. But the rest of us are. I even spent Friday night overnight at the hospital with Abby. Leigh should have been there too. Hopefully she won't have to go though. So that is about all I have to talk about right now because my brain is kind of stuffy and foggy. I'll resume more interesting posts when I'm not so tired. :-)
Monday, April 9, 2012
Cute and Sometimes Embarrassing Things Kids Say
Setting: Boston Pizza Bathroom, wheelchair accessible stall so Abby, Leigh and I can all fit in together.
Scene: Abby went pee, and Leigh went second (YAY). Then it was my turn. After I was done Leigh loudly says "Good Job Mama!!"
Scene: Abby went pee, and Leigh went second (YAY). Then it was my turn. After I was done Leigh loudly says "Good Job Mama!!"
Wednesday, April 4, 2012
It Was Supposed to be About Him, But It's All About Me Instead
Tonight it is pressed on my heart how important it is to be encouragements to our husbands. And this is an area I feel that I'm not the greatest at. (Ok, so I don't think I have many areas that I'm good at.) But it's one I want to get better at.
I think my problem is that I am so emotionally driven that if he is upset or frustrated at something, I just pick it up and run until it's suddenly all about me and how I'm stressed because he's stressed and why can't he just understand and be nice and not get mad? Why? Oh wait, there I go again!
I'm realizing that it comes from being very self-centred. I constantly think of how hard I feel my life is, how stressed I am. His stresses are far removed from me. It's usually things or people at work, and I have a hard time picturing it sometimes, since I don't see it first hand. If I don't experience it, it doesn't exist, right?
But it does exist! His life isn't perfect either. Yesterday he worked from 6:30 am until 2:30 am. And then had to go to work at 7 am again this morning. I complain when I go to bed later than 11 and get up sooner than 7.
So he was a little short-tempered this morning, which was really understandable since he only had about 3 hours of sleep. He anticipated being at odds with his boss all day. I wanted to encourage him somehow to act Christ-like, to not get frustrated. But I didn't think it was something he wanted to hear, so I didn't say anything. And besides, I had only gotten maybe 4ish hours of sleep so I wasn't much better than him.
But the day turned out all right for him, so far. I talked to him in the late morning and he was mostly cheerful sounding. So I was very thankful for that because I had been praying that his day would go smoothly. Hopefully it still is. He still is at work, but he won't have to stay quite as late tonight since they have another guy to come and spell him off. I'm very glad because I have such a hard time sleeping when he's not here, and especially when he's working. I'm always imagining horrific accidents.
There I go, making it all about me again. Gotta work on that.
I think my problem is that I am so emotionally driven that if he is upset or frustrated at something, I just pick it up and run until it's suddenly all about me and how I'm stressed because he's stressed and why can't he just understand and be nice and not get mad? Why? Oh wait, there I go again!
I'm realizing that it comes from being very self-centred. I constantly think of how hard I feel my life is, how stressed I am. His stresses are far removed from me. It's usually things or people at work, and I have a hard time picturing it sometimes, since I don't see it first hand. If I don't experience it, it doesn't exist, right?
But it does exist! His life isn't perfect either. Yesterday he worked from 6:30 am until 2:30 am. And then had to go to work at 7 am again this morning. I complain when I go to bed later than 11 and get up sooner than 7.
So he was a little short-tempered this morning, which was really understandable since he only had about 3 hours of sleep. He anticipated being at odds with his boss all day. I wanted to encourage him somehow to act Christ-like, to not get frustrated. But I didn't think it was something he wanted to hear, so I didn't say anything. And besides, I had only gotten maybe 4ish hours of sleep so I wasn't much better than him.
But the day turned out all right for him, so far. I talked to him in the late morning and he was mostly cheerful sounding. So I was very thankful for that because I had been praying that his day would go smoothly. Hopefully it still is. He still is at work, but he won't have to stay quite as late tonight since they have another guy to come and spell him off. I'm very glad because I have such a hard time sleeping when he's not here, and especially when he's working. I'm always imagining horrific accidents.
There I go, making it all about me again. Gotta work on that.
Monday, March 19, 2012
My Kids Are Featherless Birds
I got crafty last month. I saw these wings a few months ago at Ordinary Time, and decided I wanted to make them for my girls. I didn't do it right away but started earlier this year. I finished them a little while ago and was quite pleased with the results.
My hubs suggested adding the streamers on the bottom, and I think it makes it that much more fun. And actually, they differ a fair bit from the original original design, which is found here at All Dressed Up and Nowhere To Go.
Abby and Leigh had been playing Baby Bird quite a bit lately, making nests from blankets and pretending to hatch and be a baby bird. So I figured that they would love these wings and had visions of them wearing them constantly and flapping their way through life.
Turns out reality is not so much what I though it would be. They refuse to wear them. I think we managed to get Abby to wear them twice, for periods of time no longer than 5 minutes. Leigh wore them once, and only just long enough to get them on before she demanded them off.
Mark was very upset that they didn't like the wings and was almost ready to forcefully make them wear them. I am sad that they didn't want them, but I won't make them do something they really really REALLY don't want to do. So my wings that I slaved hours and hours over are relegated to the dress-up box. But I am still holding out hope that they will discover them there one day and think "Wow, I should be a bird today!"
It could happen.
My hubs suggested adding the streamers on the bottom, and I think it makes it that much more fun. And actually, they differ a fair bit from the original original design, which is found here at All Dressed Up and Nowhere To Go.
Abby and Leigh had been playing Baby Bird quite a bit lately, making nests from blankets and pretending to hatch and be a baby bird. So I figured that they would love these wings and had visions of them wearing them constantly and flapping their way through life.
Turns out reality is not so much what I though it would be. They refuse to wear them. I think we managed to get Abby to wear them twice, for periods of time no longer than 5 minutes. Leigh wore them once, and only just long enough to get them on before she demanded them off.
Mark was very upset that they didn't like the wings and was almost ready to forcefully make them wear them. I am sad that they didn't want them, but I won't make them do something they really really REALLY don't want to do. So my wings that I slaved hours and hours over are relegated to the dress-up box. But I am still holding out hope that they will discover them there one day and think "Wow, I should be a bird today!"
It could happen.
Saturday, March 3, 2012
Someone Remind Me Why I Have Kids?
I usually try to write posts that are more on the cheerful, optimistic kind of side because I know that I could easily just sit here day after day and complain about anything and everything. But unfortunately this is not a post like that. It is a venting post. Please excuse it. It's been a bit of a trying week.
My kids are driving me nuts! And right now it's mostly Leigh, dear that she is. She has been sick the last few days with a fever, so I've given grace to her crankiness because I get cranky when I'm sick too. But today, she threw the biggest fit I have ever seen her have.
She was inconsolable. Seriously, nothing was making her happy. Not food, not her monkey (blanket), not even a tv show. She was hyperventilating a bit and just keep screaming and crying. We began to worry that she had something wrong with her, like a sickness or who knows what.
I finally got her bundled to take to emerg and Mark took her outside to put in the car. I came out shortly after and she was playing on our little ship/slide in the yard. Not crying. Hmmmmm, that's suspicious. Maybe she isn't sick.
She was fine outside until I told her she couldn't ride her bike on the road. That started the fit again. So I figured that it was just an attitude thing, and she was not ill. At least that worry is gone. But how am I supposed to deal with the rest of it?
We got the painting easel set up for the girls, and Abby happily started painting a cow, of course. Everytime she paints, she says she's painting a cow.
Leigh started to get ready but then started freaking out again. But after she saw Abby painting for awhile she quietly got on her painting smock and wanted some paint. And she was fine again.
She didn't throw another fit until right now when I put her to bed. I am currently listening to her cry at her bedroom door. Today is the first day in her "big girl bed." It is just her crib, lowered and with the railing taken off. But apparently it is not acceptable. Or maybe it's just the whole bed time that is not acceptable.
Some days I feel like God is gracious and gives me lots of strength to make it, and other days I feel so stretched that I don't think I will make it through the next ten minutes without doing something I regret.
My kids are driving me nuts! And right now it's mostly Leigh, dear that she is. She has been sick the last few days with a fever, so I've given grace to her crankiness because I get cranky when I'm sick too. But today, she threw the biggest fit I have ever seen her have.
She was inconsolable. Seriously, nothing was making her happy. Not food, not her monkey (blanket), not even a tv show. She was hyperventilating a bit and just keep screaming and crying. We began to worry that she had something wrong with her, like a sickness or who knows what.
I finally got her bundled to take to emerg and Mark took her outside to put in the car. I came out shortly after and she was playing on our little ship/slide in the yard. Not crying. Hmmmmm, that's suspicious. Maybe she isn't sick.
She was fine outside until I told her she couldn't ride her bike on the road. That started the fit again. So I figured that it was just an attitude thing, and she was not ill. At least that worry is gone. But how am I supposed to deal with the rest of it?
We got the painting easel set up for the girls, and Abby happily started painting a cow, of course. Everytime she paints, she says she's painting a cow.
Leigh started to get ready but then started freaking out again. But after she saw Abby painting for awhile she quietly got on her painting smock and wanted some paint. And she was fine again.
She didn't throw another fit until right now when I put her to bed. I am currently listening to her cry at her bedroom door. Today is the first day in her "big girl bed." It is just her crib, lowered and with the railing taken off. But apparently it is not acceptable. Or maybe it's just the whole bed time that is not acceptable.
Some days I feel like God is gracious and gives me lots of strength to make it, and other days I feel so stretched that I don't think I will make it through the next ten minutes without doing something I regret.
Wednesday, February 29, 2012
She's a Winner!
Well, way back last summer I boldly stated that we were potty training Leigh. And then I think I didn't mention it for about 6 months. Mainly because I stopped because it seemed to take too long and was frustrating. But in January we began potty training, again. And this time I was determined to see it through to the end. It was panties or die. Or maybe something a little less drastic. Like cleaning poop off the floor for the rest of my life.
Aaaaaaaaaaaaanyways. I wanted to boast to update you all on our progress. And I am pleased to report that Leigh seems to have 'gotten it'. She only wears diapers at night, though that seems sporadic now since she likes to rip them off in the middle of the night. But all day she is diaper free. And while she still has the occasional accident, most of the time the pee and poop end up where they are supposed to go.
And the beauty of it now? I don't even have to give her candy for going, or even ask her if she has to go. She just goes on her own. She can take her potty cup and dump it in the big toilet all by herself too. Though I usually come because I like to rinse it.
Monday, February 27, 2012
I'm All Alone With Only Myself For Company, Somebody Help Me!
I have a few things I want to share with you but our only camera is my iPhone and I don't have the sync cord since Mark is gone for this week and took it away with him. I know we have another one somewhere, but I don't know where it is. So what is the point in sharing things with no pictures to go along? It kind of makes a bland post, I think.
So instead I will whine to you all about how I have to spend 3 nights all alone (well, obviously not completely alone, since the kids will be here) while hubs is out of town working. I admit, I cried on the phone to him. I'm horribly whiny and mopey when I'm the one left home alone.
Yet I am totally gung-ho when it's me who gets to go somewhere. Like last summer when I went to Chilliwack and Nanaimo for a week. And in just two months I'll be headed back north for a quick trip before going down south to the Okanagan for my sister's wedding. All while leaving Mark at home. Though he will join me for the wedding. I should probably feel sorry for him, since when I go, he is COMPLETELY alone because I take the kids with me. At least I get a warm body to sleep with.
And what about all those families where the husband has to work on the rigs for weeks at a time? I have it super easy compared to that. Or military families. Obviously God knew that I wouldn't be able to survive any kind of deployment. I barely survive a weekend.
And you know what is the frustrating thing? I was missing him a lot and feeling super lonely, and was glad he called before heading to bed. And I still fight with him! I mean, couldn't I put things aside and just let them go? Why do we have to fight?
It's probably because I'm hungry. I'm frantically dieting at the moment (so I can fit my dress for the wedding) and have only lost 7ish pounds since I started. Ok, so when I write that down, it actually seems like a bit of an accomplishment. But I think to me it doesn't count because it's 7 pounds that I regained after my last weight loss, on top of gaining back what I had lost.
But now I'm tempted to go on a rant about weight loss. I won't subject you to that...tonight. Tomorrow is fair game.
Good night, pray that I am able to sleep.
So instead I will whine to you all about how I have to spend 3 nights all alone (well, obviously not completely alone, since the kids will be here) while hubs is out of town working. I admit, I cried on the phone to him. I'm horribly whiny and mopey when I'm the one left home alone.
Yet I am totally gung-ho when it's me who gets to go somewhere. Like last summer when I went to Chilliwack and Nanaimo for a week. And in just two months I'll be headed back north for a quick trip before going down south to the Okanagan for my sister's wedding. All while leaving Mark at home. Though he will join me for the wedding. I should probably feel sorry for him, since when I go, he is COMPLETELY alone because I take the kids with me. At least I get a warm body to sleep with.
And what about all those families where the husband has to work on the rigs for weeks at a time? I have it super easy compared to that. Or military families. Obviously God knew that I wouldn't be able to survive any kind of deployment. I barely survive a weekend.
And you know what is the frustrating thing? I was missing him a lot and feeling super lonely, and was glad he called before heading to bed. And I still fight with him! I mean, couldn't I put things aside and just let them go? Why do we have to fight?
It's probably because I'm hungry. I'm frantically dieting at the moment (so I can fit my dress for the wedding) and have only lost 7ish pounds since I started. Ok, so when I write that down, it actually seems like a bit of an accomplishment. But I think to me it doesn't count because it's 7 pounds that I regained after my last weight loss, on top of gaining back what I had lost.
But now I'm tempted to go on a rant about weight loss. I won't subject you to that...tonight. Tomorrow is fair game.
Good night, pray that I am able to sleep.
Wednesday, February 8, 2012
Who Doesn't Have Children Just to Get a Higher Score?
Some days I still feel like a petty, competitive high schooler. Because of the fact that I still feel like life is a competition and I have to try to "be better" or ahead of others. I've said before that I compare myself to others even though I know I shouldn't. And I am definitely working on that with God too. But obviously the journey is still closer to the beginning than the end of my responses to the news of others having babies, for instance.
Yay for babies! I'm glad for my friends who are having more. But it gives me some frustrating feelings. One, Baby Fever!!!!!! Oh my goodness, all these babies and talk of babies and what not, I just need one! 2 1/2 years old is no longer baby enough. And two, the competition thing.
I have a Facebook friend who was married the same year as me, and also has two kids like me, just a little younger than my girls. She just announced that she is having another baby this summer. And then she will beat me.
Isn't it pathetic that that was me first thought when I read the news? That she will beat me? Just because she will have three kids before me, doesn't mean she's better. It doesn't make me less. Yet this is what I feel, with her news and others as well.
My good friend here in town has a daughter who is almost 8 now. And I constantly feel like I'm behind in the game and will never catch up because her oldest daughter is older than mine. (And I know what she is going to say when she reads this! She will probably be like "Oh Erica! That's ridiculous!" And then she would give some good, godly encouragement. she's so good at that. Thanks girl!)
I need to get it through my brain! It's not a game or competition or anything resembling that! God knows all of us and our futures and what we need when we need it! So stop stressing and just live my life in God's love.
Tomorrow I will share my car frustrations with you all so you can be frustrated with me! Hahaha.
Yay for babies! I'm glad for my friends who are having more. But it gives me some frustrating feelings. One, Baby Fever!!!!!! Oh my goodness, all these babies and talk of babies and what not, I just need one! 2 1/2 years old is no longer baby enough. And two, the competition thing.
I have a Facebook friend who was married the same year as me, and also has two kids like me, just a little younger than my girls. She just announced that she is having another baby this summer. And then she will beat me.
Isn't it pathetic that that was me first thought when I read the news? That she will beat me? Just because she will have three kids before me, doesn't mean she's better. It doesn't make me less. Yet this is what I feel, with her news and others as well.
My good friend here in town has a daughter who is almost 8 now. And I constantly feel like I'm behind in the game and will never catch up because her oldest daughter is older than mine. (And I know what she is going to say when she reads this! She will probably be like "Oh Erica! That's ridiculous!" And then she would give some good, godly encouragement. she's so good at that. Thanks girl!)
I need to get it through my brain! It's not a game or competition or anything resembling that! God knows all of us and our futures and what we need when we need it! So stop stressing and just live my life in God's love.
Tomorrow I will share my car frustrations with you all so you can be frustrated with me! Hahaha.
Tuesday, February 7, 2012
My Whole House is Now Covered in Glitter...Seriously
I am officially glittered out for today. We just finished making some Valentine's cards. Only 12, and I never want to see glitter again. Or at least a day. I was just going to make the cards for the girls' grandparents, but then Abby liked the glittering so much we just kept going so I figured these could be for her class too. So now I need something like 20 cards. We did 12 today. So 8 more, plus family cards to do too.
Valentine's is a week away. I didn't seriously realize this until a friend reminded me of this. We're not very big holiday people around here anyways, so it's not like I have these huge Valentine's plans. Hubs and I aren't planning on going out, mostly because it's the month with the cheque with Christmas break on it, so we don't really have the money for a babysitter plus a fancy dinner (or as fancy as you get in a small town!).
But it did remind me that I have some random thoughts floating through my head, not fully developed or anything. I just kind of wanted to do a bit of a nice dinner at home maybe, and have a sort of "date night" or something. But I'm not fully sure on any details or ideas of what exactly I want to do. I'll have to check Pinterest, they have everything there! ;-)
Valentine's is a week away. I didn't seriously realize this until a friend reminded me of this. We're not very big holiday people around here anyways, so it's not like I have these huge Valentine's plans. Hubs and I aren't planning on going out, mostly because it's the month with the cheque with Christmas break on it, so we don't really have the money for a babysitter plus a fancy dinner (or as fancy as you get in a small town!).
But it did remind me that I have some random thoughts floating through my head, not fully developed or anything. I just kind of wanted to do a bit of a nice dinner at home maybe, and have a sort of "date night" or something. But I'm not fully sure on any details or ideas of what exactly I want to do. I'll have to check Pinterest, they have everything there! ;-)
Wednesday, January 18, 2012
The Currently On-Going Saga of the Potty
I wonder how many litres of pee I have cleaned off my floor in the past few months? I guess when I think of it, it won't be many litre wise, but it might be lots cup wise. What a delightful thought.
Potty training is not high on my list of thrills. I think I'm just watching and waiting for Leigh to train herself. I know in theory how we trained Abby, but I actually don't remember the specifics. Though parts of it come back as this goes on. Like the hours I spent sitting on the edge of the tub.
Leigh is different though. She likes to "use" the little kid's potty, not the big toilet. Abby never used the little one, she always used the big one. Maybe there's just more going on, Leigh doesn't want to miss it.
But Leigh still hates to use the potty. I can get her on there for about 10 seconds and then she's jumping up and around and ready to go, and not 2 minutes later has peed on the floor.
At home we are always wearing panties now, no diapers unless we are leaving the house. I think that it is sort of cluing through her brain that when she pees, she gets wet.
And the other day, I think it was Monday, I found half a poop in the potty!!!!! (Insert celebratory trumpet band here) Abby alerted me that Leigh smelled like poop and sure enough, she had some poop on her bum, but I couldn't find it anywhere! Finally I looked in the potty and there it was.
Though she proceeded to finish her business on the bedroom floor. But it's a start! It's the first we've got. I gave her a Lindor chocolate. Hopefully that encourages her to do it again.
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